I like to craft a wedding ceremony attuned to you, the wedding couple. It’s helpful to have enough advance notice to meet with you at least once prior to the wedding to discuss your expectations and ideals. I like to listen carefully and learn your vision of what we will all do together. After that initial conference, I draft a ceremony and review it with you, either by e-mail or by phone, and we finalize the text and the sequence of the ceremony.

Important features and themes that I invite you to decide upon include:

Themes:

Religious

Specific traditions
Specific texts to be included
Denominational language or referents
Specific ceremonial actions

Spiritual
Non-denominational language with reference to sacred ideas, images

Non-theistic
Using general language to invoke such principles as the Force of Life,  the Union of Humanity…

Atheistic
There are myriad bases on which a couple may choose to found their                                              marriage. These can be articulated in ways that are meaningful and compelling in the ceremony.

Participants:

Family and friends

Read testimonials, tell stories, offer wishes and blessings, read traditional                           poetry or material composed for the wedding, singing…

Vows/Pledges:

Vows expressing your unique feelings and aspirations

Vows may be written by the two of you, individually or jointly, or I can suggest them for your review. They may be shared before hand, or read/recited to each other for the first time in the ceremony.

Officiant Vows:

Written by the couple, suggested by any tradition or proposed by the Officiant